For those of you who started tracking with me and my blog at the end of last year, you may have noticed that my postings have slowed waaaaaaay down since January.

I’m ready to tell you why.

This last Saturday, the day before Valentines Day, I had a miscarriage.

The blog slowed way down in January because I was dealing with the first trimester of my pregnancy and a whole lot of morning sickness all day long. Food was not my friend thus the lack of recipes and creative cooking posts. As with most pregnancies during the first trimester I was exhausted all the time, nauseous, and just plain old didn’t feel able to keep up with the posting pace I had set in the previous months.

And then things came to a screeching halt last week as I began to experience some complications in my pregnancy which resulted in the horrifying experience of a miscarriage this past weekend. An experience which no one prepared me for, including the Emergency Room doctor I saw Friday night who I begged for details so I would know what to expect.

I expected the emotional difficulty and not much can prepare you or lessen the sorrow of the loss of a baby, but I had no idea how physically horrifying a miscarriage can be and it wouldn’t have been quite so scary if I had just been more prepared by someone explaining to me the details of what was going to happen next.

For this reason I am planning to eventually share some details on this blog about my miscarriage experience and offer some information that may help others who have to go through the same difficulty.

Because miscarriage experiences can vary from one woman to the next, I am asking those of you – my readers – whom have experienced a miscarriage and would like to use your experience to help other women, to write and submit your story for posting in a new section I will create on the subject.

My intention is not to share a bunch of morbid stories to scare pregnant women, but rather on MommyTopics to have an archive of personal stories containing important information as well as comfort and encouragement that women know is there if and when they need it.

I am asking that you write about your physical experience, the emotional experience, and the stories of reflection, growth and new hope that followed. All the stories will be posted as “written by an anonymous contributor” unless the author requests their name be given.

If you have a story to share please email it to me, or contact me if you need more info at rachymommy@mommytopics.com

For now, there will be more silence on this blog as I’m just trying to take it easy and recover.

My husband and family have been a treasure through all of this. They’ve been working to make me as comfortable as possible, preparing places for me to rest and recover, cleaning up everything, bringing me my food and fluids, taking my blood pressure, and all this while also taking care of my three children and keeping them oblivious to what’s been going on. My husband has been by my side through every horrifying moment and has been loving me, holding me, and crying with me as we both deal with the pain of this tremendous loss.

I’m sleeping a lot, watching movies, a little bit of Olympics here and there, drinking lots of fluids, eating peanut M&Ms (my favorite), taking it easy, and using the moments where I feel good to hug my kids, look into their eyes and marvel at the miracle that each of them is, and appreciate every little thing about them and every moment I have with them.

Life truly is such a precious gift and one that should never for a second be taken for granted because we never know how many more moments we will have together… or wont.

Thank you for your prayers and love.

God is good, our faith is strong, and Lord willing there will be better days ahead.

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